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Then I asked Brian&#8217;s attorney to confirm what he had told the buyer about my ownership. Nobody answered. I mentioned, calmly, that the only paper I had signed at that steak dinner was an acknowledgment of receipt, and that I had never signed anything else.<\/p>\n<p>Gerald called it a misunderstanding, then a family matter, then finally a mistake. I did not raise my voice. I laid out the facts: my fifty-two percent, my $1.6 million, and the email promising the buyer that my interest would be &#8220;cleaned up&#8221; through a divorce. I told them I would not block the sale. More than eighty employees had waited a decade for the company to be worth something, and they deserved the payout. But it would proceed on my terms: an independent valuation, two years of guaranteed jobs for every employee, and my proceeds paid directly to my holding company. 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